New! Unleash Your Strengths Jump-Start Sessions

I’ll bet you know what your greatest strength is.

Do me a favor?

Write it on your mental whiteboard, way up high, with a bright blue marker.

Now, quickly list 9 more.

And without stopping, go for a total of 24.

How’re you doing? It’s tough, isn’t it?

Your Best-of-Self Strengths

24. That’s the number of character strengths you have, according to research conducted by a wealth of psychologists and human development experts.

I call the 24 character traits your best-of-self strengths: the qualities that make you who you are at your core (versus skills you acquire over time). For example, fairness, forgiveness, curiosity, humor, humility. All 24 are beautiful, hope-filled, full of possibility.

Knowing your greatest strength is informative.

But integrating your best-of-self strengths into your work is transformative.

  • Shift from a “what’s wrong” to a “what’s strong” way of living your life
  • Acknowledge problems without getting lost in them
  • Focus your mind and efforts on what is best and good
  • Develop more confidence and push yourself to evolve in your career and as a person
  • Feel energized and enterprising
  • Connect with others, creating mutually supporting and meaningful relationships

I’ve seen it time and time again in my 12 years as a business, career and life coach.

That’s why I developed the Unleash Your Strengths Jump-Start Session, a new quick-start program designed to give you a deeper understanding of your 24 strengths coupled with personalized strategies you can use immediately to tackle some of the most difficult challenges you face in your work.

The Unleash Your Strengths Jump-Start Session

While the Unleash Your Strengths Jump-Start Session is new, the heart of the work is not. Defining strengths and creating strategies for rooting a career or a business in those strengths is central to the work I do in my longer-term one-on-one coaching.

The Jump-Start Session has 3 parts:

  1. An in-depth 30-minute online assessment to put the spotlight on what’s best about you
  2. A professional review of your assessment results to help you understand how your strengths are related and how they sometimes compete with each other
  3. A private 75-minute phone session to develop useful strategies you can immediately apply to your work or other parts of your life

The Jump-Start Session is especially effective if you are …

  • Exploring a career transition and struggling to find an ideal fit
  • Starting a new business with a partner and need to make decisions about roles and responsibilities
  • Working in a family business and want to add value to your role
  • Stepping into a leadership role and need to define your leadership style
  • Re-visioning your work and want what you do to be centered around your strengths
  • Longing to bring more depth and meaning to a career you love

To Unleash Your Strengths Schedule Your Jump-Start Session Today

Limited Offer: 20 people

Special Introductory Pricing: $147

Registration Ends: March 31

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Tune In to Turn Up the Volume on Your Best-of-Self Traits

Tonight’s the night.

If you want to learn more about how to make the most of your best-of-self traits, tune in tonight at 8 pm ET to Life Potentials with Diantha Harris on Within Radio. I’m her guest and jazzed about it.

My interview will be available for replay and download tomorrow, Feb. 28, here.

I’ll talk with you later!

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How a Seed Catalog Can Help Your Career

February. Steel-gray skies, frozen lakes, white-cold fingers and toes. And yet it’s a gardener’s favorite time of year: the seed catalogs begin to arrive with their flashy covers and pages and pages of divine possibility.

As you’re leafing through the pages, imagining the fruits, the scents and the colors in your own back yard, I’d like to encourage you to take time to consider your personal and professional “garden.”

Is it time to plant new “seeds” of professional development? Of personal growth?

The seeds in your personal “catalog” are your best-of-self traits, like kindness, Social Intelligence, appreciation of excellence and beauty, honesty (and others). All natural and organic, your best-of-self traits transcend your skills and competencies: they’re the foundational character strengths you were born with (versus skills you learned over time).

Your Seeds Come in a Variety Pack

Your “variety seed pack” is a unique-to-you mix of 24 best-of-self traits. (Research shows that we all share the same 24 character traits, and each of us has our own mix of top, middle and lower traits.)

1. Top-level traits (hardy perennials) are the 3 to 5 traits you use so innately and effortlessly, you often take them for granted as personality traits, not the high-level character strengths they truly are.

2. Middle-level traits (perennials that need specific sun and soil conditions) are the strengths you can easily and reliably call upon when needed.

3. Lower-level traits (delicate perennials that bud only in precise situations) are those that you call on least often and that take the most effort for you to do so.

Using your best-of-self traits with intention and thoughtfulness is essential to cultivating a fulfilling career (and to living your best life). You learn faster. You feel energized, satisfied and most true to yourself when you use your best-of-self traits. You have greater confidence when you take on new projects, and you have more compassion for yourself as you learn new skills.

How to Cultivate Your Best-of-Self Traits

When I work with clients to cultivate their best-of-self traits, we use a two-part approach: (1) identifying your best-of-self traits in concrete terms and (2) bringing them fully into your work and life.

I’d like to share a simple way for you to begin identifying your best-of-self traits.

Sort Your Seeds

Take a few minutes to write down your answers to the questions below.

  • What do people consistently say you do well or compliment you about?
  • What do you most value about yourself and the way you work? (Don’t be humble!)
  • Which of your traits are sometimes too much, even for those who know you well?

Sow Your Seeds

Now read through what you have written and highlight, circle or underline the words and phrases that feel most true to your heart. Cluster the words and phrases that seem alike. Those clusters reflect your best-of-self traits. Perhaps you see a knowledge cluster (perspective, curiosity, creativity) or a relationship cluster (generosity, compassion, kindness). Brainstorm 3 to 5 ways you can use each cluster more purposefully in your work (or personal life).

Tend Your Seeds

This week, commit to taking on one of the ideas from your brainstorm session. Don’t worry about creating a plan or a schedule, just start by taking one step. By the way, feeling awkward or messy is a normal part of the process. It means you’re stretching, growing. And it doesn’t matter if your step is small or big, a quick sure stride or a tiptoe. What matters is that you take the step.

I’d love for you to let me know about the seeds you planted and what’s sprouting for you.

PS: This article is my second guest post for Diantha Harris  of  life potentials.net.  Would you like to know more about how you can make the most of your best-of-self traits? Check out my radio interview with Diantha on Feb 27 at 8 pm ET here.

Deirdre Danahar is a business, leadership and life coach for entrepreneurs and creative professionals (www.inmotioncc.com). She’s a transplanted New Englander living in Jackson, Mississippi, with her husband and alarmingly large cat.

How to Put Your Best Foot Forward (Even with Two Left Feet)

A new day is an opportunity to put your best foot forward. To share who you are and what you have to offer through your work, family and community.  Act your best. Think at your highest level.  Feel your finest.

Sometimes You Have Two Left Feet

At least to try to – you’re human and some days you don’t show up like know you really can. You put off picking up the phone to reconnect with a customer. You lose your cool in a meeting.  You don’t speak up when you have an idea. Or you take the easy path because you’re scared, bored or tired.

But other days it all comes together. You’re in the zone- doing your best work on an interesting project or facilitating a department meeting like you’re a well shorn Gene Kelly dancing in the rain.

Finding Your Best Foot to Put Forward

When you’ve tapped into the extraordinary place where your best-of-self traits are matched with the task at hand what you are doing just feel right.  The intensity and quality of your efforts is right on the mark. Who you are at your core and at your best it shows without pretense.

That’s when you put your best foot forward as a professional and as a person.

Your best-of-self traits are the character traits that make you are. They are reflected in your feelings, thoughts and actions and can be refined by skills and knowledge. When using them, your mind is at ease, engaged and excited.  Using your best-of-self traits helps you to remain nimble, grow and achieve throughout the course of your life.

Help For Putting Your Best Foot Forward

Over the last year, I’ve developed a specialty in my coaching practice helping professionals connect their best-of-self traits to purpose (self-expression) and possibility (growth) in their professional and personal lives.

Like, James, using his innate kindness to revamp his management style. Shifting from being the “too nice boss” to becoming a leader who inspires staff by holding them accountable and recognizing their best efforts. Kindness takes the generosity and the willingness to do and say the difficult things, as well as, the easy things.

So how are you going to put your best foot forward today?

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Can Colors Help You Find Work-Life Flow?

Stepping through the door of the house that would become my home, I felt the undeniable sense place that this is right. And I knew my office space was the right space too- even though the bile brown wall paint was a complete turn off.  Once I changed the paint to a mossy green on the lower part of the wall and robin’s egg blue above it’s be a welcoming creative space that clears my mind.

Perhaps the easiest way to create environments physical and otherwise that are right for you is by the colors that show up in them. On or you. It is easier to paint a wall, place a vase, on toss on a pair of socks than it is to literally construct your dream home or ideal workspace.

Colors To Support Your Work-Life Flow

Diantha Harris, ASID, wrote a companion piece to my What’s Even Better Than Work-Life Balance? piece, underscoring how color helps create the right environment for your right work-life flow. Diantha’s work is rooted her deep knowledge about how the spaces in which you dwell and work are a part of a continuum of how you express yourself in the world.

Her quick points might just lead to the very thing that will make your space just right. Think “power tie” for your life.

Gold – Honoring your deeply rooted wants helps you get in sync with your core, your truest self

The color that resonates most with this statement is Gold, that part of ourselves that is our truest self, the core of who we are. Gold is rare, valuable, often hard to find, just like our truest selves.

Yellow – Connecting with the people, places, activities and tenets that bring you joy

Joy is most often associated with Yellow, while true bliss belongs to Orange.  Use both or either of these colors when seeking joy. Or you can combine them – to make Gold!

Pink – Knowing that honoring your wants allows you to give more freely and fully to others 

Honoring yourself and others as well falls under the domain of pink. Pink brings in compassion, love, self-love and spirit of agape.

Green – Identifying your deeply rooted wants

This concept involves delving into your heart to discover your heart’s desires. So Green is the color to support this aspect of the exercise.

Red – Grounding your deeply rooted wants

Our roots must be well developed in order to accomplish anything and for that we use Red, the color of our root chakra, to ground ourselves deep into the earth. Without this step, there will be nothing lasting that comes from the other steps.

How Colors Support My Work-Life Flow (and Could Yours’ too)

I asked Diantha what she thought of my office color scheme. She pointed out that the green supports my own professional path and the blue links to a sense of peace and inspired communication. What I was drawn to instinctively seems custom designed to support me professionally. I work better when I am in it and can close the door at the end of the workday to flow into my personal life knowing I’ve been focused and productive.

What colors are in your workspace? I’d love to know.

May you create the space that inspire you to continue to lead, grow and flow.

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What’s Even Better Than Work-Life Balance?

This article is my first of two guest posts for Diantha Harris author of Simply Color and the creative force behind life potentials.net.

If your New Year’s resolutions included a promise to yourself to create work-life balance, I’d like you to reconsider. Here’s why: Balance means giving equal time and energy to the different areas of your life. And doing that requires constant evaluation, deliberation and calculation.

It’s hard.

It can feel heavy.

Here’s what I want you to know:

You can do better than work-life balance. You can create stability and priorities without living within an equation.

You can have work-life flow.

Work-life flow is almost the antithesis of work-life balance. Flow does not involve doing arithmetic, or working fewer hours in order to have more time for your family, friends, hobbies and vacations. Work-life flow is deeply rooted in what matters most to you – and what matters most to you is deeply rooted in who you are at your core.

You know that feeling you have when your mind is quiet and you have a deep sense of well-being? That’s when you are connected to your core, that’s when you’re in work-life flow. You’re making time for what’s important to you, personally and professionally – without apologies, guilt or anxiety. You feel calmer, more focused and accomplished. Your attention and energy move more easily between work and home. Your life and work are more fulfilling and enjoyable.

So how do you get there?

In my coaching practice, one of the most rewarding and enriching exercises for my clients is identifying and honoring their deeply rooted wants. Below is an exercise that can help you take the first steps to work-life flow.

Honor Your Deeply Rooted Wants

Honoring your deeply rooted wants helps you get in sync with  your core, your truest self.

Your deeply rooted wants are intimately connected to the people, places, activities and tenets that bring you joy, restore your hope and fill your reserves (e.g., spending time with your family, leading by example, hiking in the mountains, tackling a project that stretches you).

You may discover that your deeply rooted wants and your loved ones’ deepest desires aren’t the same and that honoring your wants by purposefully integrating them into how you spend your time and energy may initially make you feel a bit selfish. And that’s okay.

Your roots are there to nourish you – not someone else. Let go of feeling guilty by knowing that honoring your wants allows you to give more freely and fully to others.

Identify Your Deeply Rooted Wants

  • Brainstorm 7 to 10 roles you could play that would support what you most deeply want for yourself. (Example: Be an unwavering champion. My own best marketer. Enthusiastic amateur guitarist.)
  • Now consider 3 to 5 of those roles that resonate in your heart: What would you gain by taking them on?
  • What familiar roles do you need to let go of in order to support what you most deeply want for yourself? (Example: Being the fix-it person for everyone. The solitary leader who doesn’t need others.)
  • What would you gain by letting go of those roles?

Cultivate Your Roots

Each day this week, use one of your roles as a guiding star for honoring your deeply rooted wants. For example, on Monday, if you select “Be my own best marketer,” check in with yourself throughout the day: If you were your best marketer, how would you act? What would you think? What you would say?

If you have a quick two minutes I’d love for you to let me know what you discovered and experienced. Just leave a comment below.