What to Do When Your Job Doesn’t Work For You

Do you ever feel like what’s inside you, what you are here to do, is just not happening? That your job doesn’t allow for you to consistently bring your best traits and strengths forward?

When Your Job is Not The Work You Want to Do

Ryan wanted to figure out “How to start doing the work I really want to do, and how to enjoy more the work that I currently have.” After years in a prominent law firm and the State Attorney’s office Ryan opened a successful family law practice, but something wasn’t syncing.

See Ryan knew his calling, to help people find resolutions and meaningful agreements that benefit all parties in the midst of some of life’s most difficult situations. And to do this in the most productive and non-confrontational, win-win manner possible.

It just chaffed against who he is at his core, trying to live out his calling in the confines of the antagonistic, win-lose nature of legal disputes.

What Ryan desired is a career that combined his legal knowledge, mediation skills and natural talent for counseling people. That would feel right to him and sync with his calling.

Know What Work You Desire and What Makes You- You

He needed strategies to support him move forward using his mediation skills and expertise and leverage his best-of-self traits, while still running his legal practice.

But first he needed to be clear about what his strengths are, so they could be leveraged to move him forward.

So we identified the strengths that make Ryan- Ryan. Including his strong sense of purpose. Treating all people fairly and not letting feelings bias decisions about others. Ryan has terrific judgment, thinking things through and examining them from all sides, not jumping to conclusions. He always offers a perspective and wise counsel that make sense to him and others.

Pave a Path to Work You Desire with Best-of-Self Traits 

We explored how these traits show up in his work now and where the friction is strongest.

  • Fairness as a top trait can rub up against the win-lose nature of legal disputes, but is perfect for mediation.
  • Perspective is an excellent trait to have as someone people turn to for counsel and to guide decision-making.
  • Judgment fully ties into being able to find ways to build bridges in situations where that seems improbable.

We plotted out a course to shift Ryan from traditional legal work into a career that makes the most of his training and who he is as a person.

And we crafted strategies, rooted in Ryan’s sense of purpose, to leverage his best-of-self traits with less friction and maximize his mediation skills and foster his presence as an expert.

So What Happened

Ryan’s been raising his profile by being an instructor for a mediation course and networking. He’s infusing mediation into his legal work. And he has enrolled in a master in counseling program.

“The most important thing you helped me discover is how to weave my strengths into my profession and how to serve my profession by focusing on my strengths.”

  • Ryan reported that as a result of coaching his ability to use his best-of-self traits increased 166%
  • And using his sense of purpose to guide decision-making rose 350%

I am not measuring myself against others’ successes, rather I am focused on creating my own.”

I know on my right path now” says Ryan.

And I’d love to help you get on your right path too.

If you have questions about coaching or want to explore how more fully integrating your best-of-self traits can help you and your business, please email me, just fill out the form below. I’ll be delighted to connect with you.


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