It’s Not About Balance. It’s About Fulfillment

Over the past 3 months 3 different groups asked me to talk about two closely related topics, managing priorities, and work-life balance.  Curious about people’s biggest challenges related to work-life balance I asked,- here’s what they told me.

70% said focusing on personal priorities exercise, or personal growth

50% juggling work, family, volunteering etc., or” feeling like I need to do it all”

100% find that competing priorities in the various aspects of their life

Many people experience a push-pull between competing priorities in life and this can throw us off. You like your work. You love your family, and want to care for them. You want nurture your personal growth. Have more time “dating” your husband/main squeeze. Deadlines at work keep cropping up, over and over. Time constraints and too many obligations can impact your ability focus on priorities and roles most efficiently.

Keeping on top of your priorities and finding work-life balance is more about fulfillment and finding the best dynamism between all the roles we play and priorities we have than spending the precise same number of hours and resources on our families, at work, as well as on ourselves. That is not realistic or practical.

What we are often trying to express when we say I want more balance in my life, or I wish I had more control over things… is an expression of desire for equanimity and sense of profound satisfaction with our lives as whole.  We need to refresh ourselves as we commit our time, our intellect, passions and talents to what we do day-to-day; the big projects and the mundane ones too.

Your best individual work-life balance will vary over time, often on a daily basis.  The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for you when you are single will be different when you marry, or if you have children; when you start a new career versus when you are nearing retirement. Your priorities change over time. There is no perfect, one-size fits-all, balance you should be striving for. The best balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives.

Want to get a clear picture of your own work-life balance? Take the work-life balance quiz on my website.

If you are ready to stay on top of  your priorities please come to my Practical Priority Setting Workshop on May 7.

Remember, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least“- Goethe

For more on work-life balance, visit the excellent work-life site.


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