Making Peace with and the Most of You

Would you like to let go of trying to be someone you are not? Are you ready to make the most of your genuine self and multiple interests? Me too.

Years ago I was fortunate to have a “Eureka!” moment, and I decided to “embrace the geekdom”. Always capable, bright and funny, I was also ‘a bit left of center’, hyper-responsible, dyslexic and somehow seemed to make things harder than they needed to be.  I had too many balls up in the air: completing graduate school working part-time, working multiple jobs after. . .  The word “no” seemed to be missing from my vocabulary. I was always available for and trying to not to disappoint anyone, making things hard on myself and not leaving time enough for me.

“Embrace the geekdom”; meant figuring out what I would say yes to, what I would say no to and what I would think about. It also meant owning those decisions and resulting consequences. It was not until I was in my 30’s that I really began to make the most of my assets and fully grow into my personality. Then I experienced my moxie and a delightful unexpected ease in life even in the most challenging times.

Now in my 40’s I am grounded, interested, present and invigorated. Claiming your genuine self, with all its facets is a wonderful, exciting and dare I say liberating choice. You can be independent and still connected to who and what you love. As a coach I help busy professional women who want more invigorating lives to focus on priorities and assets to create fulfilling zesty lives.

Clearing away the “mental clutter” and focusing on key priorities demands investing in yourself and interests to make the most of your assets and quirks while replenishing the resources necessary to care for yourself and loved ones. You live with integrity. I know this to be true.

That’s my story. We each have own stories and choices.

Can you imagine what your harmonious and expansive yet grounded life would feel like? Just let yourself dream a bit here . . . Your priorities are in focus, front and center. There’s room to support your loved ones AND your interests. Your look forward to work . . . You’re not trying to fit someone’s ideals.  Like what you see? Let’s get focused on your priorities, capitalize on your assets and make the most of what you have to offer the world and what it has to offer you. It’s the best gift you could get this year!
If you are ready to make the most of 2011 I invite you to contact me about coaching. If you are in the metro Jackson Mississippi area you might also be interested in the Powerful Living community.

One can never pay in gratitude; one can only pay “in kind”…

“One can never pay in gratitude; one can only pay “in kind” somewhere else in life”.– Anne Morrow Lindberg, North to the Orient

This seemed an appropriate sentiment for Thanksgiving week.  So how will you pay in kind? How has someone paid you in kind for something you have done?

May you be blessed by the riches of friends, family and optimism this Thanksgiving.

Quiet Courage

Courage, what exactly is it? How do we know when we have it?

  • Is it trusting in your own strength, physical or emotional?
  • Is it to act in accordance with one’s beliefs and values especially in spite of criticism?
  • Is it something a person must be able to sustain it in the face of difficulty?

I suggest it is all of these.  Courage can be big and bold like taking a stand in the face of great danger. Or it can be subtle perseverance towards an enterprising goal. Fundamentally I believe courage demands integrity, personal agency and honesty.  Honesty may not be the first associated made with the word courage, but to act authentically and aligned with core values demands a substantial amount of strength in the face of the unknown.

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” ~ Raymond Lindquist

My clients are some of the most courageous people I know. Each and everyone without fail have reached that goal or a better outcome when they coupled their perseverance with personal agency. In some cases they have made long strides to overcome low self-esteem, self-efficacy as well as the discouraging pessimistic messages from others.

Their personal visions for a more compelling future laid the foundation, their will to let go of the familiar and to try again tomorrow supplied the tools and their innate abilities and creativity provided the materials to make real their aspirations.  To be a part of such a journey is an honor for which I am deeply grateful.

The zest for life they bring is sustaining and infectious.  One has ventured out to make a part-time ballroom dress design business, a big beautiful business.  Erin has rekindled the creative fires at home by literally and figuratively clearing away the clutter. An other client has pressed forward to complete her second children’s book. Emily has embraced a new sense of physically and took part in this year’s RAGBRI biking through Iowa. Dana created the sacred space in her home that nurtures her family. David made a bold decision to move back to the unexpected city with his wife and child because it was the right fit for them, even though it is far from “home.”

So how will you be courageous in service of your best life?

“Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” ~Mary Anne Radmacher

 

Christmas Memories

Let me tell you about an upcoming event at Lemuria Books in Jackson, MS. My friend, Charline McCord is the co-editor of a series of books and has a new one being released this Fall, just in time for the Holidays.  Charline R. McCord and Judy H. Tucker, editors, and Wyatt Waters, illustrator, invite you to come meet editors, artist, writers and Press at the signing and reception for

Christmas Memories from Mississippi

published by University Press of Mississippi

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

5:00 to 7:00 p.m.

Lemuria Book Store

4465 I-55 North, Jackson, MS 39206

601-366-7619

This beautiful book of thirty-eight essays, illustrated by Mississippi’s premier watercolorist Wyatt Waters, will ring true with treasured recollections of Christmases past. These Mississippi writers celebrate Christmas pageants, decorating, and family dinners—even as they recognize war and loss as part of our lives and sometimes part of our holidays. Christmas Memories from Mississippi looks at the holidays from the early twentieth century through the present and offers celebrations from various points of view, both religious and secular.  The book makes an ideal gift of shared holiday traditions and lovingly extends the spirit of the season across the state’s diversity.

Essays by Glen C. Allison • Mary Anderson • Maude Williams Ballou • Patti Carr Black • Lottie Brent Boggan • Billy G. Bridges • Freda McKissic Bush • Jerry Lee Bustin • Will D. Campbell • John M. Floyd • Richard Ford • Chris Gilmer • Bishop Duncan Gray III • Carolyn Haines • Beverly Wade Hogan • Walter Howell • Richard Howorth • Caroline Langston • Beverly Lowry • Bill Luckett • Beverly Marshall • Charline R. McCord • Margaret McMullan • Mary Ann Mobley • Mary Libby Payne • Maureen Ryan • Michael F. Smith • Ronnie Riggs • Dorothy Shawhan • Lester Senter Wilson • Seetha Srinivasan • Judy H. Tucker • Wyatt Waters • Robin Whitfield • Oprah Winfrey • Elise Winter • John M. Yarborough • and Steve Yarbrough.

So come on down all’ya’all and get a jump on your Holiday shopping. . . or contact Lemuria to order a copy!

10 Simple Mindfulness Practices for Everyday Living

These practices are meant to enhance your presence and participation in the whole of your life everyday. They also work when you are so flustered you bump into the coffee table that has been in the same place for 3 years or you can’t get that quarrel with a colleague out of your head.

  1. Drink your morning coffee without sugar if you are used to it, or skim milk instead of cream. This would work with tea just as well.
  2. When you have to wait for something (grocery line, picking up the kids etc.) breath consciously. Feel the air pull through your nose into your lungs and slowly exhale
  3. When sitting at your desk become aware of the subtle signs of physical tension and take a break to stretch or walk around.
  4. On your way to work or school, pay attention to how you walk or drive or ride the public transit. Take some deep breaths, relaxing throughout your body.
  5. Be your own Star Chef and savor a bite of your lunch or dinner, pay attention to the scent, look, texture and taste of the first bite of your meal.
  6. Keep a diary of your thoughts and feelings. The goal isn’t to create literature, but to observe, so don’t mind repetition. Repetition weaves the threads in life together.
  7. When washing the dishes be aware of each act and element involved, the warmth of the water, the smell of the soap, the feel of sponge.
  8. If someone offers their opinion of you today, smile and say, “thanks for sharing.” If it is negative, let the umbrella of your life divert any hurt feelings away. If it is positive, silently give credit where credit is due to you and in the fine spirit within.
  9. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and when you feel yourself getting swept up and away, snap it, take a deep breath, listen to the sounds around you and then move on.
  10. As you go to sleep, let go of today and tomorrow, and take some slow, mindful breaths.

Practice these exercises while following the main elements of mindfulness, combining awareness of your breath with focusing on the activity at hand, you will be able to experience every moment as fully as possible.