Psst… your intuition is calling.

An other jaw-dropping event occurred that this year’s Winter Olympics, the disqualification of Sven Kramer, speed skating dynamo of the Netherlands, in the men’s 10,000 meter race. It boggles the mind how a seeming inexplicable error, such a basic error, not changing lanes at the appointed time in the race, could occur. To athlete so finely trained, so on top of him game, but it did. I gasped when I realized what had transpired and was stunned in to silence along with crow at the track. Sven listened to misguided directives of  his coach. A mistake was made. In Mr.  Kramer’s words, “It is a very expensive mistake”, in his case costing a place in the history books,  likely financial loss for him and others and I venture to say costs to his pride and confidence in the support around him.

Okay, fine and well, this is a story most of us have heard why are you bring it up again? Well, because I think this is a powerful illustration of the importance of knowing yourself and your game, “hearing” and listening to your intuition. Following the path of what you know is correct, even when powerful outside forces suggest or even demand otherwise. In the end we are responsible for the actions we take and elect not to take, even when there are powerful outside forces.

It is likely few of us will be faced with this scale of public witnessing to or commenting on a moment in out own lives when a mistake happens and results in an unwanted, unfortunate consequence, but we all have experienced such an occurrence, when you just know you shouldda/coudda/woudda done differently if I have only listened to the little voice whispering to you. Not the devious self-saboteur that lurks within. This is not out blaming or beating yourself up or any one else for that matter.  Instead it is reminder that learning to converse with the core wisdom inside side of you is worth gold.

It’s February, how’s your energy stash?

February is the short is month of our calendar year. Yes I know there are fine scientific reasons for this being the case. However, I have a theory February is the shortest month of the year because for many parts of the country and in this hemisphere, we can’t stand the notion of many more days of winter. Dark, cold, snowy, sleeting days or where I am living now, hail and cold rain. We feel like our energy just gets siphoned off.  But for some reason March, regardless of the weather forecast states SPRING! And with SPRING comes energy, the word “spring” alone suggests potential for upward action and bounce, a lift.

So what gives you energy, nurturing, restorative, lifting energy? Like industrious squirrels and chipmunks we need to know what are our best sources of energy, collect those and make sure we use and replenish the proverbial stash. How’s your energy stash?

Grab something to write with and on. In 30 seconds list five activities that give you energy. Not things like drink 6 cups a coffee each morning. But going dancing, traveling, reading a book for pleasure, learning how to take photos, meditating for 20 minutes, etc.

Done? Did you have five wonderful; a few less, ok; none well, that’s wake-up call that the stash is pretty low and needs some attention- you need the energy to get up and done what needs to be done.

Now next to each one note the last time you did that activity. Was it yesterday, two weeks ago, a year ago, or this morning?

Is it time to replenish your stash or add a few more types of nuts?

Habit Forming

First we form habits, then they form us.” – Rob Gilbert

When we try to change a habit it seems new and unusual but after a while it becomes second nature. You just have to work at it! This is a common topic for myself, my family, friends and my clients.  Whether that new habit is eating better, learning a new way of working, getting back into a workout routine, learning a new dance step, balancing work with the rest of your life or any other number of things. Changing the way you speak from a place of frustration to from a place of empathy.

So many of these things seem like they ought to be  a proverbial “I shoudda had a V-8”- bonk hand on the head simple thing. Well of course I am going to start going to the gym at least 4 times a week… it’s what I ought to do. But what about all the other stuff I have to do, work, shopping, seeing my friends, taking care of my aging parent… how I am going to fit the gym into my schedule.

Easy, you work at it. By that I mean figuring out why doing something new or differently is really compelling to you- what is your intrinsic motivation? Also the concept of clarifying what you are saying no to because saying yes to something else is fundamentally more compelling is a powerful.

So you want to start going to the gym, its February now and time to get moving on that resolution.  Why? What’s so important about going to the gym? Maybe it’s to have enough energy to play vigorously with your nieces and nephews. What actions do you need to take to ensure you go- setting an alarm to remind you to leave the office on time? May be it saying no to sitting in traffic for an hour and saying yes to joining a gym on your route home. And then you have to take those actions, get the alarm, set it and pay attention, finding a gym and joining it, and oh yes, deciding what specifically you are going to do at the gym. Because just showing up and walking right back out the door is not going really help get ready to play vigorously with those kids.

So what’s important enough to you to want to make it a habit?

You do what?

The past few weeks I have begun to settle in to a new city and State. As I meet new people the inevitable question, so what do you do comes up in conversation. When I tell people I am a personal coach, I find myself answering their next question, what is that?

Professional coaches have long been recognized for their skills in helping athletes and executives perform at their best. Now professional coaches are helping people to achieve personal and professional goals that result in a more meaningful and fulfilling life and increase their well-being.

Coaching is about generative transformative change. It’s an ongoing professional relationship that enables people and organizations to feel and function at their best. Potential being your latent ability, capacity or possibility yet to be explored – whether you are seeking to  reinvent yourself personally or professionally, take on a big challenge or tackle complex problems.  You stretch your abilities and boundaries to pursue what captivates you, what is compelling to you.

We help you to get in motion and stay on your path with the knowledge, tools and encouragement to make decisions about what changes to make, how to make them  and develop strategies to maintain the changes you make.  Coaches :

  • Foster an a generative professional relationship focused on the client’s vision, goals, needs and values.
  • Elicit personal motivation for change or development- if you really don’t know why it is important to you, not your husband, doctor, boss or anyone else, but you, to change something, the change will not happen or it will not be lasting.
  • Support you as you improve your capacity for change by working with you to increase your resilience, self-efficacy and positivity.
  • Encourage people’s strengths, abilities, creativity and inner wisdom while balancing this with critical examination of what is and is not working for you.

Coaching works because we use a strengths based approach that focuses on where you are now and where you want to be in your life. We work as a team, to make smart decisions that support your vision, goals needs and values.  Coaching involves two critical components: 1) reflection, an opportunity to think about and clarify one’s visions, values, goals and hurdles; and 2) action, a commitment to take self defined steps to move towards one’s goals.

Coaching is not psychotherapy or clinical counseling. These are different activities and professional relationships. Coaching is not a substitute for either, but can be a complement to them, if you are engaged in either.

Using a coach can help you create or refine your life to work in harmony with your values, passions and purpose. Coaching may address a variety of goals, including transitions in personal or professional life, specific project completion, making time for your interests, job performance and satisfaction or other aspects of your life, business or profession. You’ll create a personal plan grounded in your goals, and take actions that make the most of your natural talents and creativity.